I do try hard to not be an oppressive parent. It seems to be a dance of not leaving them completely to their own devices coupled with helping them set goals and listening well at her lessons. Hearing her teacher work with her floats my boat. People who teach well are a joy to listen to. She draws out their strengths and keeps them accountable to the weak areas without crushing them. Her teacher is honest though too and doesn't just fling praise around. It has been a privilege to have her teach my kid. And it is a pleasure to listen to my daughter play while lounging around the living room. Ahhhh.