I have found there are folk who talk a lot. This is their personality. Who knows why some of us talk more than others but that's the way it is. I'm running an experiment on how my introverted personality can better handle talking.
It has occurred to me that one of the reasons I start to inwardly squirm at 'much great talking' is that the talker is usually not gifted at listening and what I share in the exchange is easily lost or misunderstood which leads to me choosing between explaining or correcting or smiling and waving. So I have decided to put the brakes on with these interchanges and focus on what the other person is talking about for the sake of comfort. Since it is already a given that we tick in different ways, sucking in my need to tell my own tales does help me as I have an overt need to be understood. I.....don't...have....to.....be.....understood. In love for the other person I can keep my trap shut and listen.
All of these exchanges stem from a need to be heard and understood. What the extrovert probably doesn't understand is that the introvert takes longer to say what is on their mind. So why should I exacerbate the struggle by badly needing to be heard. Why not just save vignettes for other conversations. Perhaps it's not true of all introverts but this introvert is simply less stressed by keeping things inside in idle conversation. Idle conversation can be such a time of discomfort that running this experiment seems worth the effort.
Hopefully I can remember this technique for more than a week so it becomes more of my mold and have less of a struggle.